This is what worked......FYI none of the other would.
Here is how to turn off safe_mode in php for 1 domain
vi /etc/httpd/conf/siteXX/safemode
where 'siteXX' is the domain's site number.
"sitelookup -d domain.com" to get site number
in that file type this line:
php_admin_flag safe_mode off
now restart apache
/etc/init.d/httpd restart
Thanks