As far as flash upload I did some research here to refresh my memory and maybe possibly if it worked before mod security was turned on on your server. I know flash upload will not work with mod security on.
That memory error is common when using GD2. You can try setting your php memory a little higher by adding an ini_set line in your pp-inc.php file at the top of it after the error_reporting line like so
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