No one is trying to make you feel like an idiot and I am sorry you that way. I merely stated that attachments 2 and 3 dont seem to have anything to do with the points you have brought up. Now attachment 1 clearly matches point 1. Attachment 4 clearly matches point 2.
I have answered all your points and points 3 and 4 as stated would involve you modifying your code to suit your needs. We support our software as it is written and do not assist with code modifications much the same as vbulletin. I am sorry if you dont agree with that but the support questions you asked were clearly answered in a timely manner and thoroughly.