Sorry if I wasn't clear. The ad does not appear in the "Ads pending" section - it only appears in the "Payment pending" section, and there is no option to approve it from there. The only options there are "leave" and "delete."
I have attached a screenshot to show you.
if the user fails to click "continue", which they sometimes will (altho I have added a line in the language file to say that they must do that, since i know this is an issue with other apps, like oscommerce) - how can I manually approve the ad anyway? I don't want to have to refund the paypal and make the user re-submit. That is a waste of time and an inconvenience for me and for them.